This is the manual on how to maintain friendship. This manual is intended for intermediate level friends. It's intended for self-study. Make sure to follow these steps one-by-one.
Section 1. How to Maintain a Friendship
You have to show your appreciation to your friends. Even when you knew them for a long time, you can take them for granted. Sometimes this isn't the case. For example, always thank him or her whenever he or she does something helpful for you, return favors to your friend whenever he or she goes out of his or her way to help you, buy them their favorite food, lunch or even a birthday card for him or her, which always results in you doing a nice thing to your friend, and tell them how much you appreciate them.
Showing interest in your friend's life is very important. When your friends tell you about their favorite things, you have to be a very good listener, meaning that you shouldn't get distracted by anything which makes you fidget to them. You can take your time to hear what they're saying and if they ask for advice, it's best to give advice to them. Also, you can show your support and interest to your friends if they are involved in an activity that they really care about, by asking them if you would like to go with them.
Building trust in your friend is also quite important. It may sound easy, but it can be difficult assuming you don't trust anyone. In order to trust your friends you must not gossip/spread rumors about your friend, otherwise you will hurt their feelings. Keeping your promises is a must, even if it's something as small as showing up on time at some place. And don't go behind your friends' backs. This will make your relationship worse if you go behind your friends' backs. Keeping secrets safe will also increase your relationship status. If you tell something secret to your friends, make sure you tell them to not to tell them to other people.
Have fun together with your friends.This can be something as simple as learning something new with your friends, like a foreign language, an exercise that you haven't done before, or watch a movie you never watched before. You can also make an open invitation, find something they would enjoy. Throw a party, which can be something as simple as celebrating a holiday, birthday, or nothing in particular. You can also plan a fun evening, where you have dinner with your friends, play a few video games, watch your favorite movies and much more.
Section 2. Being a Friend When Things Get Tough
You have to support each other when things get rough. Sometimes friendships can get rocky or friends can have a hard time dealing with their own personal problems.The best ways to solve this is by demonstrating your support. by telling your friends that you're here for them and let them know when they need your help. Also, offer to listen about their problems, or even provide distractions by spending time with them so they don't feel alone.
If you know your friend is struggling, do what you can to help. You can call or drop by to check in on your friend regularly if they are having a hard time, let your friend use you as a shoulder to cry on by giving them tissues, bring over soup, a good book, or fun movies that they can watch if one of your friends is sick.
Handle arguments maturely. Don't raise your voice or storm out when you're having an argument. Sit down and talk through the problems. Don't complain about your friend to other people, especially before you've talked to them about the conflict. If they have no idea that you're mad at them, it will be confusing if they hear that you're talking about them behind their back. Use "I" statements when you're talking to your friend. For example, you might say, "I feel left out when you invite all our friends out to dinner but don't include me." This makes the statement about your feelings instead of blaming them. Apologize if you've done something wrong. If you have hurt your friend's feelings, take responsibility and say, "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings."
Maintain contact. You may or may not feel very bad when your friend is moving away to a different town. Either way, you have to keep in touch with your friends by calling your friends regularly by phone, schedule video chats online with Skype, so that you could showcase what game you're playing or what activities you found interesting for your friend to give a try. Visit whenever you can when you've got the chance to visit the town or city your friend currently lives in. Make the time to see your friend. Plan a day of fun sightseeing together, or ask them to show you their favorite things to do.
Section 1. How to Maintain a Friendship
You have to show your appreciation to your friends. Even when you knew them for a long time, you can take them for granted. Sometimes this isn't the case. For example, always thank him or her whenever he or she does something helpful for you, return favors to your friend whenever he or she goes out of his or her way to help you, buy them their favorite food, lunch or even a birthday card for him or her, which always results in you doing a nice thing to your friend, and tell them how much you appreciate them.
Showing interest in your friend's life is very important. When your friends tell you about their favorite things, you have to be a very good listener, meaning that you shouldn't get distracted by anything which makes you fidget to them. You can take your time to hear what they're saying and if they ask for advice, it's best to give advice to them. Also, you can show your support and interest to your friends if they are involved in an activity that they really care about, by asking them if you would like to go with them.
Building trust in your friend is also quite important. It may sound easy, but it can be difficult assuming you don't trust anyone. In order to trust your friends you must not gossip/spread rumors about your friend, otherwise you will hurt their feelings. Keeping your promises is a must, even if it's something as small as showing up on time at some place. And don't go behind your friends' backs. This will make your relationship worse if you go behind your friends' backs. Keeping secrets safe will also increase your relationship status. If you tell something secret to your friends, make sure you tell them to not to tell them to other people.
Have fun together with your friends.This can be something as simple as learning something new with your friends, like a foreign language, an exercise that you haven't done before, or watch a movie you never watched before. You can also make an open invitation, find something they would enjoy. Throw a party, which can be something as simple as celebrating a holiday, birthday, or nothing in particular. You can also plan a fun evening, where you have dinner with your friends, play a few video games, watch your favorite movies and much more.
Section 2. Being a Friend When Things Get Tough
You have to support each other when things get rough. Sometimes friendships can get rocky or friends can have a hard time dealing with their own personal problems.The best ways to solve this is by demonstrating your support. by telling your friends that you're here for them and let them know when they need your help. Also, offer to listen about their problems, or even provide distractions by spending time with them so they don't feel alone.
If you know your friend is struggling, do what you can to help. You can call or drop by to check in on your friend regularly if they are having a hard time, let your friend use you as a shoulder to cry on by giving them tissues, bring over soup, a good book, or fun movies that they can watch if one of your friends is sick.
Handle arguments maturely. Don't raise your voice or storm out when you're having an argument. Sit down and talk through the problems. Don't complain about your friend to other people, especially before you've talked to them about the conflict. If they have no idea that you're mad at them, it will be confusing if they hear that you're talking about them behind their back. Use "I" statements when you're talking to your friend. For example, you might say, "I feel left out when you invite all our friends out to dinner but don't include me." This makes the statement about your feelings instead of blaming them. Apologize if you've done something wrong. If you have hurt your friend's feelings, take responsibility and say, "I'm sorry I hurt your feelings."
Maintain contact. You may or may not feel very bad when your friend is moving away to a different town. Either way, you have to keep in touch with your friends by calling your friends regularly by phone, schedule video chats online with Skype, so that you could showcase what game you're playing or what activities you found interesting for your friend to give a try. Visit whenever you can when you've got the chance to visit the town or city your friend currently lives in. Make the time to see your friend. Plan a day of fun sightseeing together, or ask them to show you their favorite things to do.
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